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I hear their words but don&#8217;t process them. Sometimes I will shift the topic to something else by using one of the words that they&#8217;ve used.<br \/>\nFor Example a person says &#8220;My partner cursed me out because &#8230;&#8221;<br \/>\n<em>My<\/em> <em>Answer<\/em>: _________. \u00a0This line means my answer is sheer silence. \u00a0Sometimes I look at them with alarm, not with words. Or, using one of their words I could say, cursed words of yesterday are accepted in today\u2019s society as acceptable forms of expressions.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>The negative speaker may repeat the statement or ask if I heard them.<br \/>\n<em>Answer<\/em>. Oh. Or, of course I heard you &#8230; you said &#8230;&#8230;. repeating verbatim what they said.<\/p>\n<p>My strategy would be to get away from them and if that is not possible continue talking and change the direction of the conversation with a question. 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